The following topics are the most common ones that we deal with in the cases that we receive. Click on any topic to find links to those cases.

Marriage (Conflicts / Insults)

10, 44, 54, 95, 117, 123, 130, 140, 159, 162, 195, 232, 277, 279, 303, 306, 315, 316, 333, 345, 353, 379, 392, 397, 427, 435, 458, 466, 546, 550, 552, 572, 586

Marriage (Indifference / Expression of Affection)

45, 104, 115, 176, 178, 231, 235, 245, 280, 286, 317, 321, 455, 470, 489, 519, 542, 551, 587

Marriage (Adultery / Infidelity)

4, 8, 29, 61, 71, 90, 106, 121, 141, 152, 166, 174, 178, 200, 216, 236, 259, 289, 301, 323, 334, 339, 347, 356, 368, 394, 412, 421, 447, 453, 484, 486, 504, 515, 524, 531, 540, 548, 562, 574, 598

Marriage (Spousal Abuse)

39, 51, 80, 107, 150, 157, 190, 243, 252, 275, 307, 332, 384, 406, 413, 467, 469, 582

Abandonment of Spouse

27, 30, 110, 126, 146, 182, 228, 311, 329, 334, 347, 481, 570, 580, 581

Jealousy / Envy

8, 39, 119, 248, 275, 298, 317, 378, 422, 430, 441, 458, 468, 516, 525, 526, 555, 567

Divorce

60, 94, 189, 219, 252, 316, 453, 461, 471, 532, 537, 538, 556, 560, 574

Cohabitation

41, 103, 108, 113, 153, 160, 213, 260, 310, 342, 399, 417, 420, 465, 473, 483, 494, 517, 520, 522, 525, 533, 537, 541, 544, 576, 584, 599, 600

Romantic Relationships / Courtship

28, 61, 66, 76, 83, 105, 121, 137, 145, 171, 181, 191, 192, 193, 206, 213, 223, 246, 248, 253, 256, 264, 265, 270, 276, 284, 285, 287, 296, 298, 300, 302, 308, 314, 324, 327, 328, 335, 365, 383, 386, 395, 396, 399, 415, 418, 428, 430, 433, 438, 472, 476, 482, 487, 496, 563, 575, 433, 438, 472, 476, 478, 479, 482, 487, 496, 534, 563, 575, 583, 589

Infatuation / Falling in Love

16, 50, 152, 184, 210, 232, 250, 259, 260, 300, 301, 308, 314, 324, 334, 346, 375, 402, 404, 424, 428, 440, 446, 450, 488, 493, 497, 515, 530, 534, 539, 577, 590

Sexual Immorality

12, 40, 28, 82, 89, 96, 118, 131, 145, 160, 168, 173, 191, 201, 218, 227, 233, 238, 247, 260, 269, 270, 284, 289, 290, 299, 310, 319, 325, 333, 350, 354, 365, 375, 383, 389, 396, 401, 407, 408, 411, 417, 436, 437, 456, 485, 487, 508, 517, 524, 525, 530, 533, 570 437, 456, 485, 487, 508, 517, 524, 525, 530, 533, 570

Pornography

7, 130, 186, 227, 288, 343, 408

Social Media / Internet

36, 64, 272, 322, 336, 346, 356, 361, 524

Family

5, 33, 46, 53, 55, 56, 81, 95, 100, 108, 114, 122, 128, 133, 138, 142, 161, 172, 188, 201, 207, 220, 221, 247, 258, 266, 319, 326, 327, 332, 388, 439, 463, 492, 506, 511, 520, 557, 567

In-laws

35, 85, 264, 279, 335, 362, 372, 414, 422, 442, 457, 505, 513

Parental Responsibility

6, 25, 27, 37, 89, 97, 98, 102, 109, 112, 113, 132, 144, 146, 147, 160, 179, 182, 203, 218, 219, 236, 238, 241, 251, 263, 267, 292, 302, 304, 312, 323, 329, 339, 342, 355, 364, 372, 376, 385, 416, 419, 421, 445, 456, 461, 462, 465, 505, 507, 528, 543, 599

Small children (Discipline / Instruction / Care)

26, 57, 59, 204, 240, 257, 271, 299, 305, 309, 311, 321, 348, 357, 381, 429, 434, 454, 471, 483, 503, 583, 585

Adolescents (Discipline / Instruction / Care)

19, 38, 72, 78, 87, 154, 169, 175, 211, 215, 217, 254, 263, 290, 343, 349, 352, 370, 390, 420, 479, 490, 522, 533, 541, 558

Adult children

70, 149, 164, 198, 226, 282, 283, 331, 377, 382, 423, 448, 478, 509, 554, 560, 578, 596

Responsibilities of children

9, 14, 20, 63, 111, 143, 155, 170, 214, 224, 244, 274, 291, 313, 337, 340, 358, 366, 371, 374, 400, 409, 452, 492, 518, 564

Adoption of Children

34, 57, 196, 204, 241, 257, 268

Abortion

1, 42, 127, 194, 233, 255, 268, 297, 369, 375, 387

Child Abuse / Rape

3, 11, 68, 73, 168, 177, 192, 201, 215, 225, 247, 290, 330, 344, 391, 407, 411, 437, 450, 485, 514, 519, 549, 563, 571, 573, 597

Abuse

3, 11, 23, 32, 41, 49, 68, 73, 77, 99, 103, 129, 134, 164, 168, 177, 180, 187, 200, 202, 219, 230, 237, 309, 312, 330, 335, 340, 345, 348, 349, 366, 380, 391, 392, 431, 484, 494, 502, 514, 518, 541, 548, 557, 566

Guilt

11, 42, 74, 90, 93, 96, 118, 151, 153, 158, 163, 170, 185, 189, 194, 203, 208, 225, 235, 249, 262, 268, 293, 297, 306, 312, 319, 325, 330, 338, 341, 344, 368, 369, 371, 374, 377, 387, 389, 391, 408, 443, 445, 451, 491, 495, 508, 514, 521, 543, 546, 559, 560, 569, 579, 593

Repentance

1, 96, 127, 148, 151, 158, 165, 187, 229, 255, 312, 336, 338, 354, 363, 387, 389, 425, 437, 507, 591, 594

Forgiveness

32, 45, 94, 139, 178, 255, 339, 349, 350, 361, 362, 379, 380, 382, 429, 453, 459, 513, 514, 518, 549, 571

Depression / Anxiety / Panic

31, 52, 86, 91, 100, 158, 239, 350, 369, 377, 393, 400, 443, 449, 460, 474, 475, 523, 528, 529, 565, 568, 577, 588, 595

Illness

13, 15, 31, 56, 67, 69, 75, 84, 86, 91, 115, 136, 167, 173, 193, 197, 209, 239, 249, 271, 320, 344, 356, 393, 444, 449, 457, 460, 464, 473, 474, 475, 480, 527, 529, 532, 553, 576, 595

Death

47, 52, 67, 75, 124, 156, 167, 183, 205, 261, 262, 351, 373, 495, 498

Finances

22, 48, 54, 66, 97, 138, 150, 161, 221, 222, 241, 242, 274, 276, 277, 318, 342, 359, 376, 378, 397, 400, 427, 432, 552, 564, 586

Work

58, 79, 97, 117, 142, 199, 220, 240, 266, 269, 277, 295, 296, 235, 371, 409, 432, 434, 452, 499, 501, 528

Bad Habits

2, 18, 38, 71, 83, 98, 148, 170, 212, 214, 226, 294, 326, 331, 341, 363, 388, 435, 436, 441, 485, 569

Lying

43, 62, 159, 220, 242, 258, 316, 322, 398, 401, 409, 491, 500, 514, 526, 556

Anger

23, 77, 125, 208, 230, 237, 295, 307, 348, 381, 382, 426, 431, 459, 469, 477, 497, 503, 512, 545, 547

Robbery / Fraud

17, 65, 101, 135, 148, 185, 211, 222, 242, 254, 281, 315, 371, 409, 510, 536, 592

The English translation of each case will be available here each week. A new case will be posted each Wednesday and will correspond with the case posted at conciencia.net. Please pray for these desperate people who are searching for answers! Pray for their immediate need, but more importantly, pray that God will speak to their hearts so that they may come to know Him in a personal way.

 
Case
Case 141

Fifteen years ago I had a girlfriend during a seven-year period. My relationship with her having ended, I am now married and have two children, but I continue to think about her. I dream about her at night, sometimes continually, and that leaves me a little dismayed and reflective the following day. I wonder if I am being unfaithful to my wife in my thoughts even though I love her with all my heart.

Dear Friend,

You raise a very good question. It has a two-part answer. We must separate what happens in your mind when you are sleeping from what happens when you are awake. As humans, we have no control over what happens in our dreams, so you are not morally responsible for anything that you dream. As you are falling asleep each night, make a mental list of all the things you love about your wife. Try to repeat that list every night, adding one more item to the end of the list. When you focus your thoughts on your wife immediately before sleeping, you are less likely to dream about the other woman.

However, your thoughts while you are awake are a different matter altogether. If you really want to, you can control your thoughts when you are awake. But it takes discipline. Of course, at first the unwanted thoughts will continue to come into your brain, especially if you dreamed about the other woman the night before. If you then feel guilty for your dream and relive it in your mind, the other woman will stay in your thoughts. Instead, accept the fact that you are not guilty for your dreams and refuse to relive them. There’s no reason to worry or fret about what you dreamed. As soon as you realize that you are thinking about the dream or the other woman, you must substitute a pre-determined thought that will cause you to change the subject in your mind. It could be that you begin to think about your favorite sports team, or possibly some problem you are going through at your job. Or you may have a hobby or project that needs to get done, and you can think about the steps involved.

Where are you and what are you doing when the thoughts come to you? Change your patterns and habits to take away the time you have to think about what you shouldn’t. Keep your mind so busy that there is no time for wrong thoughts.

You said that you are worried that you are being unfaithful to your wife. Jesus held that what goes on in your mind is just as important as your actions, so you are right to want to change your current pattern of thinking about the other woman. When teaching about this subject, Jesus said, “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”1

We wish you well,

Linda and Charles
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1 Mt 5:27-28

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