The following topics are the most common ones that we deal with in the cases that we receive. Click on any topic to find links to those cases.

Marriage (Conflicts / Insults)

10, 44, 54, 95, 117, 123, 130, 140, 159, 162, 195, 232, 277, 279, 303, 306, 315, 316, 333, 345, 353, 379, 392, 397, 427, 435, 458, 466, 546, 550, 552, 572, 586, 607, 628, 633, 636, 651, 666

Marriage (Indifference / Expression of Affection)

45, 104, 115, 176, 178, 231, 235, 245, 280, 286, 317, 321, 455, 470, 489, 519, 542, 551, 587, 601, 624, 657

Marriage (Adultery / Infidelity)

4, 8, 29, 71, 90, 106, 121, 141, 152, 166, 174, 178, 200, 216, 236, 259, 289, 301, 323, 334, 339, 347, 356, 368, 394, 412, 421, 447, 453, 484, 486, 504, 515, 524, 531, 540, 548, 562, 574, 598, 617, 639, 640

Marriage (Spousal Abuse)

39, 51, 80, 107, 150, 157, 190, 243, 252, 275, 307, 332, 384, 406, 413, 467, 469, 582, 655

Abandonment of Spouse

27, 30, 110, 126, 146, 182, 228, 311, 329, 334, 347, 481, 570, 580, 581, 611, 656

Jealousy / Envy

8, 39, 119, 248, 275, 298, 317, 378, 422, 430, 441, 458, 468, 516, 525, 526, 555, 567, 615, 627, 641

Divorce

60, 94, 189, 219, 252, 316, 453, 461, 471, 532, 537, 538, 556, 560, 574, 629, 635

Widowhood

70, 75, 92, 262, 661

Cohabitation

41, 103, 108, 113, 153, 160, 260, 310, 342, 417, 465, 473, 483, 494, 517, 520, 522, 525, 533, 537, 541, 544, 576, 584, 599, 600, 616, 634, 647, 652

Romantic Relationships / Courtship (Chastity / Moral Values)

145, 213, 284, 428, 476, 612, 642, 644

Romantic Relationships / Courtship (Deceipt / Distrust)

76, 83, 105, 206, 287, 298, 433, 438, 632, 637

Romantic Relationships / Courtship (Uncertainty / Doubt)

61, 66, 121, 137, 171, 181, 192, 193, 223, 246, 248, 253, 256, 264, 265, 296, 300, 302, 314, 327, 395, 415, 418, 430, 472, 482, 563, 583, 589, 605, 621, 632, 650

Romantic Relationships / Courtship (Incompatibility)

276, 285, 324, 328, 335, 386, 496, 497

Romantic Relationships / Courtship (Pre-marital)

28, 191, 270, 365, 383, 396, 399, 487, 539, 619, 622

Step-parents

77, 99, 114, 122, 164, 215, 257, 263, 319, 352, 420, 485, 511, 520, 550, 571, 575, 607, 620, 649

Infatuation / Falling in Love

16, 50, 152, 184, 210, 232, 250, 259, 260, 300, 301, 308, 314, 324, 334, 346, 375, 402, 404, 424, 428, 440, 446, 450, 488, 493, 497, 515, 530, 534, 577, 590, 630, 638

Sexual Immorality

12, 40, 28, 82, 89, 96, 118, 131, 145, 160, 168, 173, 191, 201, 218, 227, 233, 238, 247, 260, 269, 270, 284, 289, 290, 299, 310, 319, 325, 333, 350, 354, 365, 375, 383, 389, 396, 401, 407, 408, 411, 417, 436, 437, 456, 487, 517, 524, 525, 530, 533, 570, 604, 618, 634

Pornography

7, 130, 186, 227, 288, 343, 408, 626

Social Media / Internet

36, 64, 272, 322, 336, 346, 356, 361, 524, 608

Family

5, 33, 46, 53, 55, 56, 81, 95, 100, 108, 128, 133, 138, 142, 161, 172, 188, 201, 207, 220, 221, 247, 258, 266, 319, 326, 327, 332, 388, 439, 463, 492, 506, 511, 520, 557, 567 557, 567

In-laws

35, 85, 264, 279, 335, 362, 372, 414, 422, 442, 457, 505, 513, 636, 645, 666

Parental Responsibility

6, 25, 27, 37, 89, 97, 98, 102, 109, 112, 113, 132, 144, 146, 147, 160, 179, 182, 203, 218, 219, 236, 238, 241, 251, 267, 292, 302, 304, 312, 323, 329, 339, 342, 355, 364, 372, 376, 385, 416, 419, 421, 445, 456, 461, 462, 465, 505, 507, 528, 543, 599, 617, 619, 619, 648

Small children (Discipline / Instruction / Care)

26, 57, 59, 204, 240, 257, 271, 299, 305, 309, 311, 321, 348, 357, 381, 429, 434, 454, 471, 483, 503, 583, 585, 602, 607

Adolescents (Discipline / Instruction / Care)

19, 38, 72, 78, 87, 114, 154, 169, 175, 211, 215, 217, 254, 263, 290, 343, 349, 352, 370, 390, 420, 479, 490, 522, 533, 541, 558, 633

Adult children

70, 149, 164, 198, 226, 282, 283, 331, 377, 382, 423, 448, 478, 509, 554, 560, 578, 596, 623

Responsibilities of children

9, 14, 20, 63, 111, 143, 155, 170, 214, 224, 244, 274, 291, 313, 337, 340, 358, 366, 371, 374, 400, 409, 452, 492, 518, 564, 620

Adoption of Children

34, 57, 196, 204, 241, 257, 268, 613

Abortion

1, 42, 127, 194, 233, 255, 268, 297, 369, 375, 387

Child Abuse / Rape

3, 11, 68, 73, 168, 177, 192, 201, 215, 225, 247, 290, 330, 344, 391, 407, 411, 437, 450, 485, 508, 514, 519, 549, 563, 571, 573, 597, 603, 625, 662, 663

Abuse

3, 11, 23, 32, 41, 49, 68, 73, 77, 99, 103, 129, 134, 164, 168, 177, 180, 187, 200, 202, 219, 230, 237, 309, 312, 330, 335, 340, 345, 348, 349, 366, 380, 391, 392, 431, 484, 494, 502, 514, 518, 541, 548, 557, 566, 629, 665

Guilt

11, 42, 74, 90, 93, 96, 118, 151, 153, 158, 163, 170, 185, 189, 194, 203, 208, 225, 235, 249, 262, 268, 293, 297, 306, 312, 319, 325, 330, 338, 341, 344, 368, 369, 371, 374, 377, 387, 389, 391, 408, 443, 445, 451, 491, 495, 508, 514, 521, 543, 546, 559, 560, 569, 579, 593, 642, 653, 658

Repentance

1, 96, 127, 148, 151, 158, 165, 187, 229, 255, 312, 336, 338, 354, 363, 387, 389, 425, 437, 507, 591, 594, 628, 664

Forgiveness

32, 45, 94, 139, 178, 255, 339, 349, 350, 361, 362, 379, 380, 382, 429, 453, 459, 513, 514, 518, 549, 571, 625, 663

Depression / Anxiety / Panic

31, 52, 86, 91, 100, 158, 239, 350, 369, 377, 393, 400, 443, 449, 460, 474, 475, 523, 528, 529, 565, 568, 577, 588, 595, 646, 654

Illness

13, 15, 31, 56, 67, 69, 75, 84, 86, 91, 115, 136, 167, 173, 193, 197, 209, 239, 249, 271, 320, 344, 356, 393, 444, 449, 457, 460, 464, 473, 474, 475, 480, 527, 529, 532, 553, 576, 595

Death

47, 52, 67, 75, 124, 156, 167, 183, 205, 261, 262, 351, 373, 495, 498, 610, 643, 659

Finances

22, 48, 54, 66, 97, 138, 150, 161, 221, 222, 241, 242, 274, 276, 277, 318, 342, 359, 376, 378, 397, 400, 427, 432, 552, 564, 586

Work

58, 79, 97, 117, 142, 199, 220, 240, 266, 269, 277, 295, 296, 235, 371, 409, 432, 434, 452, 499, 501, 528, 654, 667

Bad Habits

2, 18, 38, 71, 83, 98, 148, 170, 212, 214, 226, 294, 326, 331, 341, 363, 388, 435, 436, 441, 485, 569, 606

Anger

23, 77, 125, 208, 230, 237, 295, 307, 348, 381, 382, 426, 431, 459, 469, 477, 497, 503, 512, 545, 547, 614

Lying

43, 62, 159, 220, 242, 258, 316, 322, 398, 401, 409, 491, 500, 514, 526, 556, 608

Robbery / Fraud

17, 65, 101, 135, 148, 185, 211, 222, 242, 254, 281, 315, 371, 409, 510, 536, 592

Hypocrisy

234, 332, 345, 509, 591, 609, 660

The English translation of each case will be available here each week. A new case will be posted each Wednesday and will correspond with the case posted at conciencia.net. Please pray for these desperate people who are searching for answers! Pray for their immediate need, but more importantly, pray that God will speak to their hearts so that they may come to know Him in a personal way.

 
Case
Case 663

When I was five years old, my mother got together with a man that she met at her workplace. As the months went by, he began to sexually abuse me. I told my mother twice, but she never did anything about it. Instead, she married the man and had a child with him.

Now I am twenty-six years old and I feel an enormous amount of resentment in my heart. I know that she’s my mother, but it’s hard for me to forgive her. I live with her, but there are days that... those thoughts flood my mind and I just want to lock myself in my room. What should I do?

Dear Friend,

No wonder you resent what was done to you and how your mother failed to protect you! As an adult now yourself, you can’t even imagine how a mother would be willing to “sacrifice” her daughter on the altar of her own selfish love interest. You find it difficult to trust her now, knowing that she so willingly betrayed you then. And you are grieving, not only for the little girl whose innocence was ripped away, but also for the woman who now must face life feeling so abandoned.

It would be extremely helpful if your mother were willing to admit what she allowed to happen to you, and to ask your forgiveness. However, in our experience, that doesn’t usually happen. Your mother likely justified what she did so long ago, and she is still justifying it now. If she were to ever admit that she betrayed you, it would crack the mask that she wears as a “good” mother. It would bring into question what other things she may have done or permitted. So she protects herself (instead of you) by refusing to acknowledge what happened to you.

Please ask your medical doctor or a social worker how to find a group for survivors of sexual violence. You desperately need a forum in which to talk about what happened to you. If you can’t find a group, then you should consider seeing a professional counselor. Keeping all of your feelings bottled up inside could make you physically sick. It could also lead you to engage in destructive romantic relationships, looking for love in all the wrong places.

You cannot forgive your mother by yourself. Only Jesus Christ, God’s Son, can help you to forgive her. He has experience in forgiving the difficult cases, as He did when He forgave the very people who crucified Him. He can help you to understand and believe that forgiveness will free you, not her, from the destructive physical and mental effects of unforgiveness. Pray and ask God to come alongside you and supernaturally help you to forgive.

A therapy group or a counselor can better advise you as to how you should relate to your mother now. Retreating from everyone and putting yourself into isolation in your room is probably not the best option.

We wish you well,

Linda

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